This post is going to be a little different than normal!
Sunday night, I went to a fancy Brazilian steakhouse with my family, and because the restaurant was so nice, I decided to wear the following pair of heels:
However, notice that I also brought a pair of flats to change into:
While I partly did this because I knew the shoes were incredibly uncomfortable (and thus may need changing), I also did it because every time I wear heels, people stare at me like I have six heads. Because wearing heels is so odd, right?
So the flats were also dignity insurance, so to speak.
You’re probably wondering why they stare at me so oddly, and that’s because I’m on the taller side. So when I wear heels, I’m really tall, which is what makes them look and wonder why the heck I’d choose to make myself that tall. And it’s not a very pleasant experience. No, it is not.
But the fact that I feel uncomfortable wearing heels just because I’m tall-ish got me thinking: When the heck did it become bad for tall girls to even further elevate their height?
My entire life, I’ve always had a love for the beautiful art that is the high heel. Starting at about the ago of three, I would always sneak into my mom’s closet and steal hers. Why? Because I liked them! I’d walk around the house all day long with them on, strutting my stuff and asking her if I was pretty. Because, you know, I’m pathetic like that. 😛
Anyway, that love of heels has never died. I began wearing the shoes on a regular basis in the eighth grade. Even back then, at a whopping 5’4″, I was still taller than almost everyone around me, guys included. Yet when I wore heels, everyone always told me how nice I looked. No one ever made snide remarks.
Those remarks, however, began in high school. Once I became a freshman, people looked at me funny when I wore heels. Then, in my sophomore year, I suddenly grew four more inches, and everyone really began hating that type of shoe on me! They would say things like, “Leah, aren’t you tall enough already?” or “Wow! Why would you want to be that tall?”. “Do you really need to have those shoes on right now?” was also a common one. And those remarks made it quite clear to me that society thinks it is not okay for a tall girl to wear heels.
Another thing that’s made me think this is when I meet someone new and she (because typically only girls comment this) says something along the lines of, “Oh, I feel so bad for you! You know, because you’re that tall. Even if you date a tall guy, you’re never going to be able to wear heels!”
Because we’d be too close in height, of course.
Because that’s such a bad thing, of course.
So now that I know society dislikes tall girls in heels, I tend to never wear them. Whenever I do wear them, I feel very awkward, shy, and self-conscious, as if I’m a circus freak walking a runway. So yeah. Their use in my life is very minimal.
I’ve talked to other tall girls about this, and they’ve said that they experience the same exact things. They’ve also said that they, too, don’t feel comfortable in heels because of it. But why does it have to be like that? Why can’t we just be who are and wear what we want? What’s so wrong with being just a little bit taller than everyone else?
Sunday night was supposed to be an experiment on how long I could last before I felt too awkward and thus took off my heels, but to be honest, I didn’t even make it out of the car.
Sure, the toe-pinching helped with that decision, but it was more-so due to the fact that I wanted to socially conform. I thought about it later, and if I was 5′, I would have just dealt with the pain.
I don’t know what the point of this post really was haha. I just wanted to talk about this little social thing that I’ve found to be true in my life. How do you feel on the subject? Do you agree? Disagree? Have you experienced this, too? I’d love to know!
Stay beautiful, and until next time ❤